The great evangelist Dwight L. Moody said, “I’ve never met a man who gave me as much trouble as myself.”
My Own Worst Enemy
Everyone needs some advice some days. I say, “Stay out of your own way!” The big book of Alcoholics Anonymous repeatedly mentions the harm of Self Sabotaging Behavior and how we let our mind trick us. We need to stay out of our own way.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “It is impossible for man to be cheated by anyone but himself!”
Your Own Worst Enemy
Be cognizant to gain control of your mind or it will gain control of you. However, your imagination dictates your openness to a positive direction. Norman Vincent Peale stated, “Do not build up obstacles in your imagination. Remind yourself that God is with you and that nothing can defeat him.”
No one can defeat you unless you first defeat yourself. Self-image establishes the boundaries and the limits of each of our individual accomplishments. Charles Colton said, “We are sure to be losers when we quarrel with ourselves; it is civil war.” Dr. Frank Crane stated, “Our best friends and our worst enemies are the thoughts we have about ourselves.”
Stop looking only at where you are, and start looking at what you can be. As such, be aware of your thoughts. They soon become words and actions very soon after that.
Wrong thinking almost always leads to misery.
Most of the stumbling blocks people complain about are usually under their hats. Louis XIV suggested, “There is little that can withstand a man who can conquer himself.”
Tim Redmond avers, “Don’t commit treason against your life and purpose.”
“Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you,” said Frank Tyger.
Remember you are your own doctor when it comes to curing cold feet, a hot head, and a bad attitude.
Stewart Johnson maintains, “Our business in life is not to get ahead of others, but to get ahead of ourselves – to break our own records, to outstrip our yesterdays by today, to do our work with more force than ever before.”
If you would like to know who is responsible for most of your troubles, look into a mirror.
Your world first exists within you. Marianne Crawford said, “Every man carries with him the world in which he must live.”
Zig Ziglar states, “What you picture in your mind, your mind will go to work to accomplish. When you change your pictures, you automatically change your performance.”
Why do people sabotage themselves?
You may be a victim of self-sabotage if:
- your goals tend to be just out of reach
- you are settling for less than you really want
- you find yourself at cross-roads on the way to your dreams?
Review the following signs of self-sabotage behavior and try following the proactive tips to move past your hurdle. It is time to begin and create the life you desire.
What are you focusing on? Self-sabotaging behavior begins with a focus on what is not working or missing in your life. Pay attention to how often you speak and think about what is wrong, this includes what is not working, not right, or missing. These thoughts will only attract more of the things you don’t want.
Ask yourself what is good in my life right now? Take notice of all the things that are working, no matter how small. You will begin to attract more positives into your life that will lead you to your desires.
Change your focus to change your life!
Are you spending time worrying about the future or the past? Do you stress about what is going to happen or might happen? This is another sign of self-sabotage.
Live in the moment. You need to focus on the here and now. If you are troubled, start to focus on a solution. Visualize a new life or circumstance. Visualize the outcome and positive place you want to be in, and then take action toward making it happen. Take action in this moment, then let it go. Make it a point to continue taking further action and continue to let go of your fears and worries.
There is nothing more you can do to help by worrying. Instead use tip number 1 and put your focus to work.
Your point of power is in the present!
- Comparing Yourself to Others
Do you find that you constantly compare yourself to others and then feel bad? Comparing yourself to others usually doesn’t motivate, but rather it makes you feel overwhelmed or not good enough. This is a sign of self-sabotage.
To overcome self-sabotage- focus on you! Write out 5 accomplishments you are proud of. List 5 qualities you love about yourself. Find 10 adjectives to describe how great you are.
You are your own greatest asset!
Do you ever feel worthless or not good enough? Do you look at yourself and make excuses for why you can’t be, do, or have what you want? Seeing yourself as unworthy does not motivate.
Get in touch with your inherent self-worth. The wisdom of the universe considers you so worthy that it gave you existence. If it did not, you simply would not be here. Learn to be your own greatest fan and supporter.
If you don’t value yourself, other people won’t do it for you.
Start to value yourself and feel your self-worth by becoming your greatest fan and supporter. For every small accomplishment, give yourself a pat on the back. Do it! Start to feel proud about yourself and take time to indulge in a small step to success or change. The accomplishment does not need to be a big. It could be very simple like getting up earlier. Any minor change is valuable! Begin or make time to appreciate yourself now.
Use affirmations. If you don’t believe in them, consider changing that belief and make them to work for you. Look at yourself in the mirror; take a minute to really look. Then make eye contact and tell yourself:
- I believe in myself,
- I am inherently valuable and worth,
- The universe applauds my life.
- Living in the Past
Focusing on the past is a sign of self-sabotage. Whether you waste your time dwelling on past failures or past accomplishments, you are self-sabotaging. Use the past to grow and move forward.
If there is a failure you are dwelling upon, stop. Every success has been preceded by a mountain of failures. That is how we grow, learn, and improve. Change your thinking about what it means to fail. Instead of taking it as a shot to your self-esteem, consider it part of your learning process. Every great person (i.e. from athletes to business professionals) knows what it’s like to fail. They also know what it’s like to brush themselves off and get back at it.
If you are dwelling on a past accomplishment and it is getting in the way, follow the same advice. Learn what you can from the accomplishment, feel good about it and then move on. Don’t identify yourself with the accomplishment. You are much greater than that.
As you let go of your past, you free yourself to fully live in the present. And the present is your point of power.
If you find yourself suffering from any of the 5 signs of self-sabotage use the tips above to make the necessary changes to start living the life of your dreams.
Please remember you may succeed if nobody else believes in you, but you will never succeed if you do not believe in yourself!
Whatever you attach consistently to the words “I am,” you will become.
Never Give Up!